Friday, February 13, 2015

Sophie Talks | Love

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection."
Now with it being Valentines Day tomorrow, I thought it was very fitting for this months Sophie Talks post to be about love. Don't worry, I'm not going to get all gushy or talk about my non-existent relationship, but rather the love that I've learnt so much about over the past 6 months. It's the love that is quite possibly the most important of all - loving yourself. 
Growing up, I tried to be an extremely loving person. I always wanted to be kind, and to just always be there for others, but looking back now I realise I never treated myself the same way. It's not that I hated myself, although I did sometimes get frustrated at how I looked, how clothes (didn't) fit well on my body, and just who I was. I never treated myself with the love and respect that I should have, and looking back now I wish I had. 
Self-love can be a battle for a lot of people, and there's often a fine line between loving yourself and being over confident, so people tend to steer clear. I've seen so many teenagers putting themselves down for who they are and how they look, and at twenty-two it breaks my heart. I've been single for the last 5 months now, after having had two previous long(ish)-term relationships, and looking back now, I don't know how they lasted as long as they did. I'm not saying that because they were awful, but rather from the fact that I never well and truly loved myself, so how on earth could anyone else? I constantly shrugged off any compliments I was given, and I didn't exactly believe in who I was, so it's hard to see how anyone else could. 

“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.”
Steve Maraboli
I'm only really 5 months along my path of loving myself, but it's been a great start. I've started consciously making an effort to look at myself in the mirror, and telling myself that I am worth it and I am beautiful and I can chase after my dreams. I've started to be concious of what I eat, and have started to treat my body better. I've started to think positively, and choose to be happy (I blogged about that here). I've started to be patient with myself, and to just take time learning and doing things. I've started to love me.
I'm in a happy place at the moment, and this self-love journey that I've been on has been a big part of that. It's not an easy one, but it's one that's been important in my life, and will no-doubt be important in a lot of peoples lives.
People are always going to try and put you down. There are always going to be people who are better than you, who are prettier than you, who are cleverer than you, but there is nobody else quite like you. You are who you are, and that in itself is wonderful. There are people out there that love you, and you should too. Be kinder to yourself, compliment yourself, treat yourself right. You deserve it.
"If you have the ability to love, love yourself first."
Charles Bukowski
Sophie x
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2 comments on "Sophie Talks | Love"
  1. Lovely post. Very reflective and personal.
    Have a great weekend :)

    Gem x

    1. Thanks very much Gem! I hope you've had a great weekend xx